K. This question is for all you mommys out there.
So, I got this really cool camera for Christmas - that I haven't had time to learn how to use yet. So, I really want to take a photography class this up coming semester to learn how to take awesome photos so I can hopefully make a little money on the side as a photographer.
K. With that said, this is the dilemma. Right now, the only days that I am not working are Mondays and Wednesdays. Those are the only two days of the week that I get to spend the WHOLE day with my son. Which, also just happen to be the days the photography class is. The class is from 10 am to 3 pm. Joshua will be two in March, so he isn't as needy as a new born, but he is still young enough to notice that I am already gone a lot. So, do I take the class to hopefully better our financial situation in the future? Or do I not so I can be a better mom for my son? Being gone seven days a week is an awful lot, but it would only be for one semester.
What would you do?
Friday, January 18, 2008
Dilemma
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This is just my two cents: I would not take the class right now. You will only have your little boy for a little while. Then he won't want to spend as much time with Mom. And second he will be in school and will not have the same time to spend with mom. If I were you I would just keep practicing and when he starts, which really is not that faraway, take a class at the college. 10-3 is a really long class, especially when you have to spend a lot of time away from him all ready. Go to the library and get a book on photography, and just keep taking pictures. Right now the priority is your son.
I don't know who Red is, but I couldn't agree more.
Me too, Megan. I know that this is a tough choice, and I know you probably really want to learn about photography (and I am one who COMPLETELY values education and the pursuit of lifelong learning), but I think that Joshua should be at the top of your list whenever you can manage. There isn't enough money in the world to pay for lost moments and experiences with your baby. He needs his mom MUCH more than anything a few extra bucks might buy-- and who knows, maybe through reading you'll be able to learn enough to make some extra anyway!
I regret EVERY SINGLE DAY I went to work or was otherwise away from my kids. They resent it, I resent it, and no matter how much I rationalized about the money or benefits, I can't go back and get that part of their lives back. Too little too late.
Harsh, but experience is talking here. The more one works the more dependent one becomes on the income. The longer one works the more inclined one's husband will be to have one continue to help support the family.
Taking classes that interfere with your child's awake time with you has the same result. Pretty soon they will learn to deal without you. Think to their Jr. High school years, do you want a kid that deals without your input, or has gotten used to you not being there and is fine with it? 98% of the kids in school are doing just that.
The photos you take with the knowledge you have now will be more than acceptable. Check on line blogs or photography websites, check You Tube for tutorials. All of those you can do while the little guy is napping or sleeping at night.
My FIRM resolve has been to try and persuade all mothers everywhere to live and be happy with what we have until the offspring are graduated from high school. Yup, high school. They still need us home even when they aren't there all day.
Never put yourself in a position where you have to ask someone else's permission to go home to your kid.
I don't mean to lay a guilt trip, just my opinion, everyone has to do what is best for them. Take it or leave it.
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